Thanks for your thought-provoking post. I chose to spend Mother's Day hiking with my kiddo and homemade pizza. I chose not to spend money on a fancy brunch, flowers or dinner. I find that holidays bring a sense of "must-do" surrounding spending. My family never expects a card on holidays. I would much rather have a nice chat or a visit with them. It isn't because I am frugal, but I just don't value it. It is the same approach to combining food with holidays, especially sweet food. I am interested in finding a new path.
I’d say we fall into pretty traditional norms but we are always trying new things! Normally my partner and I will buy things the other person needs or could use instead of frivolous items, or maybe something for the family/house as a whole.
Thanks for your thought-provoking post. I chose to spend Mother's Day hiking with my kiddo and homemade pizza. I chose not to spend money on a fancy brunch, flowers or dinner. I find that holidays bring a sense of "must-do" surrounding spending. My family never expects a card on holidays. I would much rather have a nice chat or a visit with them. It isn't because I am frugal, but I just don't value it. It is the same approach to combining food with holidays, especially sweet food. I am interested in finding a new path.
That "must-do" sense is so real! Kudos for setting better expectations with the people around you.
I’d say we fall into pretty traditional norms but we are always trying new things! Normally my partner and I will buy things the other person needs or could use instead of frivolous items, or maybe something for the family/house as a whole.
What makes a gift feel "frivolous" for you?